Why You Want to Give Up And Why You Shouldn’t

Struggles and trials are inevitable. We all have to go through them at one time or another. Sometimes it can seem as if we are constantly in a struggle. You may look back at your life over the past few years and feel as though there were no good breaks. Like everything came with resistance.

Everything in our lives happen for us in some way. If you have been going through a difficult time, there is a lesson for you to learn. The struggle can’t go away until you learn the lesson. Sometimes we allow the circumstances to keep us stuck, instead of move us forward. So, rather than learning and growing through the difficult times, we get discouraged, bitter, angry, and we give up. When we give up, we have no way of moving forward. It’s like accepting that this is where we are going to stay for the rest of our lives.

Difficult times serve a purpose. And the purpose is for us to grow into who we are suppose to be. Many times they help us to develop our character so that we can be better prepared for where we are going next. The problem is we spend our time resisting the difficulty instead of allowing it to change us and prepare us for our next step. If we focus on what we are suppose to learn in this moment, at this time, instead of when it will end, we move through the difficult times with more ease.

So rather than fight against these difficult times in your life, embrace it and allow it to change you for the better. None of us are suppose to stay the same. We are meant to grow and change. Don’t live your life trying to avoid all the difficult times. Those lessons will only keep showing up in different ways. Allow yourself to be changed for the better so you can have all the things you want in this life.

Reach your goals!!

Did you ever set a goal, became really excited about it, and then got discouraged because nothing was happening? Well then you’re in the majority. The minority of people who actually reach their goals know how to play the waiting game. When we set a goal we become so focused on the finish line ( the actual point of meeting the goal) that we become less focused during the process. How can we expect to reach our goal if we’re not  giving all our energy and attention to the things we need to do in order to reach the goal?

Typically what happens is we set our goal and then instead of getting up every day and focusing on the progress we’ve made, we look at how far we have to go. This is a sure way to drain all your energy and motivation. While you need to have a vision of where you want to go, you must let go of the outcome. Letting go of the outcome doesn’t mean you don’t care what happens, it just means you’re putting everything into the present moment and trusting that the future moments will work out. Almost always, the plans we make never go as planned. This is why we have to focus on the present. If we focus on the outcome, when things don’t go as planned, we get frustrated and are tempted to give up. It feels like such a setback. Staying in the present keeps you from falling into that trap. Every person who has attempted to reach a goal, has experienced setbacks. It happens to everyone. The key is not to become discouraged and give up. We can create a mindset that helps move us forward or one that keeps us stuck. It’s our choice.

So, set your goal. Create your vision of what it looks like and how it feels to reach that goal. Then let it go. Focus your attention on what needs to be done next. What do you need to do now that will bring you one step closer to your goal?

Living your dreams and making the world a better place !

Each of us has our dreams. The business we want to start, the book we want to write, the position we want to gain, the home we want to own. Whatever it may be, we all have something we want that require us to grow and evolve in order to attain it. When we first realize this dream, we feel the spark of excitement. We are intrigued by the idea of having exactly what we want. Who doesn’t want to be able to have everything they want? As the moment of spark passes however, we have many moments of doubt. We start to think…..this can’t happen to me, I can’t do that, I don’t have what it takes, there are so many people already doing this, I don’t have the qualifications or credentials. We come up with every reason why we cant have what we want.

The truth is, we can have everything we want. That is how it was always meant to be. But by creating all this doubt in our minds, we discourage ourselves and completely turn away from the idea that we are capable of making our dreams come true. Half the battle is believing. Believing in ourselves enough to take steps towards our dreams. The funny thing is….the world is waiting for us to fulfill these dreams. The world needs more people who are happy and satisfied with the lives they are living. I know this can be super scary so here are some tips for living your dreams and making the world a better place:

Overcome negative thinking: What we think influences how we feel, and in turn influences our behaviors. By becoming more aware of our thoughts, we can change the way we think. Throughout the day, pay attention to the to the thoughts you are having. Listen to the chatter inside your head and become aware of how many negative thoughts you think.

Increase positive thinking: Once you are aware of the negative thoughts, you now have the power to make more positive decisions. For each negative thought you have, replace it with a positive thought. (For example: “I won’t be able to run my own business.” Instead, ” I am fully capable starting and running a successful business that allows me to do what I love.” ) Remember, our negative thoughts are just our fears. And as we know, fear is false evidence appearing real. Our fears are not real!

Take small steps: Thinking about the finished product can be overwhelming when we try to figure out how we’re going to get there. Instead, think about what needs to be done now. What is one thing you can do right now to bring you one step closer to your dream. Maybe it’s making a phone call,  writing an email, or writing your first post. Whatever it is, focus all your energy on accomplishing this one step. Before you know it, you will be further along than you thought.

The difference between those living their dreams and those who aren’t is one simple decision…….the decision to believe “I can” instead of “I can’t.”